OPEN LETTER
An Open Letter to the Cheating Scum of Mankind
How Do You Sleep?
Dear Cheating Scum of Mankind,
Have you noticed how any time anyone cheats on their partner, it’s the same sequence of events? Partner A cheats on Partner B. Partner B gets suspicious and starts asking uncomfortable questions to Partner A. Partner A scoffs at Partner B for being ‘crazy’ and ‘jealous’. Within weeks the truth comes out and Partner B is left saying the same thing. ‘You told me I was crazy, being so jealous. You lying c*nt.’
Have you thought about getting a little bit more creative around the types of things you say to your once unsuspecting and now losing-their-mind partner? I won’t ask if you’ve ever thought of a path in life where infidelity is not an option- you probably haven’t, that’s why we’re having this open conversation.
Do you ever think, instead of making your partner feel worse about where things are headed, you could potentially take some responsibility for your actions? Own your actions? Face the consequences?
At what point do you transform from the person your partner once loved to this massive dickhead who won’t even acknowledge their mistakes?
I won’t call you a piece of shit for cheating. We’re only human, human beings make mistakes. Moments of weakness are real. Addressing a change in feelings for your partner that might prompt you to cheat on someone — that’s not something everyone is talented enough to do.
I will call you a piece of shit for lying about cheating though. Nothing makes your partner feel worse than being doubted about their sanity. Don’t call your partner crazy for being jealous. The reason they are going crazy is that you’re driving them crazy. If they were truly crazy, you would have seen it coming.
When you apologise, don’t make it a shit apology. ‘I’m sorry you feel this way’ is perhaps the worst apology ever made. What are you sorry for? If you are not sorry for your behaviour, don’t say it. The reason someone ‘feels this way’ is that you made them ‘feel this way’. Acknowledge it.
Don’t flaunt your newfound happiness in the face of your now traumatized ex. Things may have ended cordially despite the fact that you were a cheating scumbag, but have the decency to let them have their dignity. They’ve lost a lot else already, don’t taint their dignity.
Do you know what happens when you flaunt your newfound happiness in their face or on social media? Your ex loses their mind.
Their mind goes into the wild territory called “Insecurities” and they start thinking back to the things they always knew they lacked. They then start blaming those supposed deficiencies for the outcome of your relationship.
If they get drunk and insecure enough maybe they’ll drunk dial you. What then? There’s nobody left with their dignity intact. Just a has-been couple where one partner is a cheat and the other is a disheveled mess.
But that’s not right, is it? The outcome of your relationship is not owed to anything that any of the partners was lacking. The outcome is down to overcrowding, bringing a third person into an otherwise monogamous relationship.
Why not just have a chat with your partner? An honest and open conversation about what’s missing. They are not thick, they’ll get it. Just tell them you want to end things. They’ll happily move on. Maybe not happily at first, but less miserably than they would after being cheated on.
Just something to think about, eh?
Sincerely,
Just Found Out She was Cheated On
